Reflections & tools
Short reads on leaving painful relationships, no contact, people-pleasing, guilt, and coming back to who you are.
Hi, I'm Ellen: Why I Do This Work
Hi, I'm Ellen Pinheiro. I'm a writer and a personal and behavioral development coach, and the creator of the Blooming Method. If you are new here, ...
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Before You Go Back: A 7-Day Plan and SOS Toolkit for the Moment You Want to Reach Out
Between feeling and acting, there's a space. Before You Go Back was created to help you find that space, especially in the moments when the urge to...
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Blooming After Narcissism: The Story Behind My Book
Blooming After Narcissism: A Journey of Healing, Faith, and Emotional Freedom is the most personal thing I have ever written. It is not a technical...
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Who Was I Before I Tried to Please Everyone? 7 Signs You've Been Shrinking Yourself
Some people come out of a painful relationship and realize they don't just miss the other person. They miss themselves. If you have ever wondered "...
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No Contact Is Hard: How to Get Through the Moment You Want to Reach Out
No contact sounds simple: don't call, don't text, don't check their profile. Living it is a different story. The hardest part is usually not the de...
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Why Do I Keep Going Back? Understanding the Pull After a Painful Relationship
You decided. You know the relationship was hurting you. And still, at 11 p.m., your thumb hovers over their name. If you are asking yourself "Why d...
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